People are often critical of NRIs who come to India to find a life partner. Why? I guess because there have been cases where such marriages have not worked out, or because after having lived out of India for an extended period, people back in India feel that NRIs have forsaken their country and shouldn’t have anything to do with India anymore, especially not when selecting their life partners.
I, on the other hand, can tell you from personal experience that an NRI coming to India to find a soul mate is a win-win situation. How? Well I had been working in UK for about four years and had dated scores of women locally. Some were English, others 2nd generation Indians living in UK. They were all rather sweet in their own way; but somewhere there was a cultural connection that was missing. There was a social context, a set of shared values, that I was seeking; which I lacked for them, and in turn they lacked for me.
Marriage is a life long and serious commitment. One must be aware that it isn’t love and being sweet alone that can make it work. The two people in a marriage should share a mutual understanding. And that’s why I looked to India to find my soul mate. I flew to Delhi once my parents had lined up meetings with various women. And as I met them and went out with them, my suspicions were confirmed at once. When compared with the girls I had gone out with in UK, there was no explaining required here. Everything felt natural. I understood the women in India, and they understood me. There was a deep familiarity present.
And that’s when I met Reshma. We both instantly knew that we had found our soul mate. And today, ten years on, I can proudly admit that I feel proud to have turned back to my home country to seek my soul mate. We are happy and understand each other perfectly!