On Thanksgiving, here in the US, we see people celebrating and spending time with their families and close friends. This is when I miss being with my family. Of course, in India there is no tradition of thanksgiving, but just looking at the sight of everyone so happy with their family makes me think of the times I spent time with mine.
Back home, we have a big family. I, however, lived with my parents, sister and grandmother. But once a month, the full family uncles and aunts from my Dad’s side and Mum’s side got together for a family lunch. This lunch, which lasted from morning to evening, was something of an unsaid tradition.
I remember the way the family would start coming together in the morning. The men sat in the living room, chatting away while drinking. The women would all hurdle in the kitchen helping with the cooking. While working they exchanged recipes and gossiped.
We children would just run around the house playing with each other. In other words, the house was a compete chaos. When it was time for the lunch, we would all sit together, say a little prayer before we started, and relished the delicious food. It was at this table that family talks would happen. About holidays and weddings and property… You name it and it was talked about.
I was part of this tradition till I was a teenager and moved to the US to study further. My family still calls during every get together and try to make us feel part of it, but being so far from them, it is only the thought that lingers.
Sadly, we are away from home and the family. However, we were invited to a close friend’s house. They are like family to us here in the US. It was much like a family gathering, but nothing compares to the one we have back home.